Tuesday, December 20, 2011

14 Days of Festivity: Day 13

 Library Holiday Lego Club


Clearly I'm way behind on this series, so I'm going to skip my usual sparkling commentary and just briefly say that:
  • Nathan really likes Legos.
  • The library was having a free Holiday Lego Club event. 
  • It was indoors and involved Legos that were slightly different from the ones we had at home.
  • Sold. 
The Lego event had a Santa:


Nathan chose a giant rubber spider from Santa's Sack of Leftover Summer Reading Club Trinkets, which was different from and yet surprisingly like approximately 100 small junk items that I had just regifted to the Salvation Army and/or a landfill.  


Here's Nathan building some sort of structure:


Here's my creation, which is the only type of creation I ever build out of Legos, which is a house:


I just love the pink Legos.  I don't remember those from when I was a kid.

More of Nathan's creation:



After completing the house, I painstakingly assembled a Lego Santa.  I was so proud of my Lego Santa that I intended to take a picture of it, but a kid who was a little overzealous about the clean-up (not, obviously, my own kid) took my Lego Santa and broke it apart before I could photograph it.   So, here's a picture of the Lego Santa I attempted to pattern my Lego Santa out of:


I guess it's all good, though, because my Lego Santa had a disproportionately large head. 

Friday, December 16, 2011

14 Days of Festivity: Day 12

Santa Hat Party Mix



The purpose of this post is twofold:

1. To share with you another Pinterest-based project that I botched made.
2. To remind you to get a holiday gift for your child(ren)'s teacher(s). 

So, yes, the Santa Hat Party Mix.  I pinned this project on Pinterest months ago.  Then some time later I pinned another version of it, with the note that "This version is way cuter." 

It turned out they were the exact same version, from the same exact website.  I am dumb. 

The deal on the Santa Hat Party Mix, as you can see in more detail on the original recipe, is that you make little Santa hats by dipping Bugles into red candy melts.  You then re-dip the bottom part in the red melts to get white nonpareils to stick on the bottom to make the white fur part.  You dip each a third time to add a white marshmallow puff at the top. 

You have to dip each fucking Bugle three separate times.  

Somehow this seemed like a great idea! 

Now onto the part about how you should get holiday gifts for teachers.  Teachers are performing a service for you, like babysitters or cleaning people.  You might argue that the difference is that teachers are not directly employed by you, that they are paid by an outside agency.  And my rebuttal to that is, they aren't bloody paid nearly enough. 

When I was a teacher, the pressures from all directions were nearly unbearable.  You were expected to get an entire class of students, with needs as diverse as learning disabilities to the autism spectrum to gifted to English-language learners, to perform at grade level on The Test.  There was pressure from the administrators, the school district, and the community as a whole.  You had to try to please the parents of 30+ different kids.  And you had to do it all while maintaining a positive, disciplined learning environment for a bunch of children. 

Teachers deserve a gift. 

This year I have seen many, many blog posts and Facebook polls about what teachers really want, and the most common answer is: GIFT CARDS.  Some parents report giving actual cash, which is always appreciated, but, I don't know, I guess I just feel a little weird about.  So I give gift cards.  My policy in the past, which I will probably continue in the future, is to give a Starbucks gift card at Christmas and a Target gift card at the end of the year. 

Let me pause and say that I absolutely get that times are tough, and that these days any one kid can have many teachers.  So if you can't afford to spend a lot on a gift card, that's fine.  Starbucks is definitely a place where you don't need a gift card in an expensive denomination to have a fun time.  And if you can't afford any gift at all, please just write a nice note to the teacher.  Just do something to acknowledge the teacher and let him/her know that he/she is appreciated. 

Now, back to the gifts I get my own personal kid's teachers.  As I said, I get gift cards.  As I have also said in the past, I like to attach my gift cards to something a little bit heavier, so that they don't get lost. 

So I figured the Santa Hat Party Mix would be a great little add-on to go with the Starbucks gift cards. 

I didn't take pictures of the step-by-step process of making the Santa Hat Party Mix, because the original recipe includes sufficient pictures, and also because my camera was temporarily misplaced at the time. 

But if you could see the pictures of me making the party mix, you might see:
  • Me with red sticky fingers getting mad at the whole gloppy process.  (This was partially due to the fact that I forgot to buy shortening, which apparently thins out the candy melts and makes them easier to work with.)
  • Nathan sitting nearby playing with the iPad, and asking me to help him with something that I couldn't help with because of my red sticky fingers. 
  • Me giving up after the nonpareil stage and deciding to forgo the marshmallow puff ball stage, and to just throw the marshmallows in separately.
  • Nathan taking off all his clothes and putting on his pajamas. 
  • Me texting Trainer Jill to cancel our session for that afternoon, because I was just so frazzled by my red gloppy project and my messy kitchen and my kid without appropriate clothes. 
  • Trainer Jill replying back that I was a "weenie." 
  • The comparatively easy step of making the entire non-Santa-hat portion of the party mix, which just required me to dump a bunch of stuff in a pot and stir melted white chocolate into it.  
I don't know if the dipped Bugles ended up looking like Santa hats or not, but they look red and festive.

And the mix is delicious.  It reminds me of something my Grandma Arlene used to make.  She would come visit us every year from Pennsylvania, and she'd bring along some kind of white-coated snack mix.  When I asked her what the coating was, she'd say, "White coating ... from the Amish store." 

So, I was never able to replicate her recipe because I have no idea what "white coating" is, nor do I live near an Amish store.  But I thought this Santa Hat Party Mix with the white chocolate was similar to Grandma Arlene's recipe. 

As you can see, I put the snack mix in Mason jars and attached the cute little Starbucks gift card pillow boxes to the jars with ribbon.  I made the jars for Nathan's two teachers, as well as for his babysitter Danielle.  I think the whole thing came out cute, but next year I'm just filling jars with some type of store-bought treat. 

Also, I think the snack mix would be good for other occasions with just straight-up, non-dipped Bugles (the salted caramel kind).  Then it would be a very easy thing to make for a party. 



    Wednesday, December 14, 2011

    14 Days of Festivity: Day 11

    Working From Home

    I think, for the most part, I stay on top of responsibilities.  Sure, I've forgotten to pay a bill a few times in my life, and sometimes I'm running to Target to buy a birthday present on the way to the party.  But usually I like to take care of things as far in advance as I can possibly remember to. 

    Christmas shopping is the exception to this rule.  I always procrastinate on my Christmas shopping. 

    One reason for this procrastination is that the holiday season stresses me out, and I don't want to prolong the holiday season by beginning my shopping in, say, September.  I realize this practice makes no sense, because my holiday season would probably be less stressful if I began my shopping earlier, but nonetheless I like to keep the stress contained within the month of December. 

    But also, I need the pressure of last-minute shopping.  See, early in the season, when I have the luxury of time, I'm always second-guessing myself when it comes to the selection of a particular person's gift.  Like, Hmm, those earrings would be a really cute gift for Suzie.  But ... I don't know, maybe I'll find something better.  I'll keep looking. 

    But at the last minute, there's no time to keep looking.  You see a thing you like, you throw it in the cart.  Bam.  Christmas is done.  No second-guessing.

    Now, for me, the last minute isn't exactly the last last minute, because I have to find a way to get all my gifts out to California before Christmas.  I accomplish this transport in one of two ways: (1) Buying the gift out here and shipping it to one or more of my relatives' houses in advance of my arrival, or (2) Ordering the gift online and having it shipped to one or more of my relatives' houses.  As online shopping becomes more convenient, I'm doing more and more of the latter.

    So, my last minute started this past Saturday.  And then on Monday, which was 14 Days of Festivity: Day 11, I ordered a whole bunch more stuff. 

    Between that ordering, soccer, and a toy purge, I didn't have time to take Nathan out and do something festive.  Well, I did offer to take him to see Arthur Christmas, but we got into a battle regarding his refusal to eat lunch, and I said we couldn't go. 

    So, in the spirit of online shopping and doing it all from home, I just decided that Day 11 would be the day I sat at home and thought about Christmas, and then wrote about it. 

    I have two things to say. 

    One, I am happy to report that this is the first year that I don't feel stressed out about traveling with Nathan.  He's easily kept occupied by the iPad, or movies, or some sort of coloring/activity book, so I'm not feeling like I'm going to be tense the entire flight.  Additionally, he's finally able to sit in the backless booster seat in the car, so we don't have to lug a big old carseat everywhere we go, nor do we have to install the carseat using that !@#$@% LATCH system in every single new car we ride in during our travels (including the taxi to the airport). 

    That whole thing about stress-free travel with Nathan having been said, I have now jinxed myself and it will be the biggest nightmare flight with him ever, worse than the Christmas when he was still a lap child and Bill and I got our shirts covered with the meat-flavored baby food. 

    On a slightly more negative note, what's the deal with the Elf on the Shelf?  When did this become a thing?  All of the sudden I'm seeing blog posts about the Elf, Elf tweets, tips for Elf ideas, funny outtakes about the Elf ... and it's like, how did this whole thing start without being on my radar at all?  I mean, I guess I saw it at Target, but I just thought it was an ugly marketing gimmick and I ignored it.  Now it turns out this is supposed to be some kind of family tradition I'm supposed to perpetuate?

    For anybody else who's clueless like me, the deal, according to the official Elf on the Shelf website, is that each family gets an individual elf spy to come and watch how the children in the house behave.  You have to give your elf a name and register it online (a tradition no doubt dating back to the Christmases of old), and then every night your elf flies back to report to Santa, returning the next day in a fun new clever hiding place.  That means that parents have to remember to find a fun new clever hiding place for the elf every day. 

    I absolutely see why parents would like this tradition.  Most of us have been threatening kids with Santa's Naughty List for years, and this elf spy just the threat all the more believable. 

    But, threats of punishment and/or coal aside, I decided the Elf on the Shelf thing just wasn't for us.  I'd like to say I made this decision because I don't need some external threat to keep my child in line, or because I believe he needs to learn how to behave because it's the right thing to do and not because some magical elf is spying on him.  But the reality is that I love threats and bribes.  I just don't think the Elf on the Shelf is for us because I'm really bad at keeping up on these things. 

    I could just see our elf sitting there for days on end in the exact same spot, because I forgot to find a clever hiding place for it.  I'd forget to put the elf away on Christmas Eve, so then I'd blow the cover on the idea that he had to go back and be with Santa.  Also I could never enforce the whole "kids aren't allowed to touch the elf" thing, because I'd end up looking the other way when Nathan incorporated it into a fort, just so I could get 5 minutes of peace to check Facebook. 

    Also, the poor elf would probably get crushed by all the clutter on our shelves. 

    14 Days of Festivity: Day 10

    Baking

    It was time for Nathan's school's twice-yearly bake sale, which meant it was time for my twice-yearly rant about how pointless bake sales are.


    I mean really.  First of all, I thought schools stopped doing bake sales because of fears of allergies or H1N1 or anthrax or childhood obesity or something.  Is Nathan's school like the last school ever that still does bake sales?

    But also, I thought by now everybody had realized that it's a waste of time, money, and energy to have everybody buy ingredients/packaging, and then bake and wrap everything, only to turn around and purchase more baked goods, so that the net profit is less than people collectively spent on the ingredients.  Hence the bakeless bake sale.  

    Is it really that people would refuse to give the school a $5 or $10 donation if they were asked for that instead of a donation of baked goods?  Would parents be mad because they already pay tuition at the preschool and shouldn't be asked to give a donation on top of that?  Because, I personally would happily hand you a $10 bill if it meant not having to bake a bunch of stuff.

    Also, must this bake sale be held at the holidays, when we all have enough other stuff to do and enough other junk to eat?

    Anyway, I always go classic when it comes to the bake sale.  I always make the Toll House cookies, with whatever assortment of M&Ms is seasonally appropriate.  My theory is that nobody is every going to be disappointed with a chocolate-chip cookie.




    Now, last year, approximately 75% of the bake sale items contained red and green M&Ms.  So as to distinguish my cookies from the others, I threw these Pillsbury Christmas tree cookies in as well, because I think kids like those.



    But then this year my contribution was the only one with M&Ms.  I know because I volunteered to work at the bake sale.  Oh, and my cookies were hugely popular, largely because I promoted them more than the other cookies. 

    And even my cynical self could see that people still get excited about a bake sale.  All the senior citizens who were at the park district for art or exercise classes, or just to hang out, seemed to get a certain kind of excited nostalgia upon seeing a bake sale.  And I guess everybody thinks it's cute when it's a fundraiser for a preschool. 

    So maybe you do need to go through all the motions of a bake sale, because it's important to get everybody in the spirit of working together.  Asking for monetary donations doesn't generate much spirit.  

    But I still would have rather given $10. 

    Sunday, December 11, 2011

    14 Days of Festivity: Day 9

    A 1950s Christmas

    About 15 minutes south of my hometown lies the town of Park Forest, Illinois.  Park Forest has the distinction of being America's very first fully-planned post-WWII suburb.  (Many believe Levittown, New York to be the first post-war suburb, but Levittown was actually just a subdivision.)  Park Forest and Levittown represented a whole new sociological phenomenon when it came to communities.  As sociological big-wig Studs Terkel noted:
    "The suburb, until [about 1946], had been the exclusive domain of the 'upper class.' It was where the rich lived. The rest of us were neighborhood folk. At war's end, a new kind of suburb came into being. . . . Thanks to the GI bill, two new names were added to American folksay: Levittown and Park Forest.

    "A new middle class had emerged. Until now, the great many, even before the Depression, had had to scuffle from one payday to the next. . . . [Before there had only been one] car on the block. Now everybody was getting a car. Oh, it was exciting."
    --Studs Terkel, The Good War (copied off that most-definitive source, Wikipedia)
    Park Forest was also made famous in author William Whyte's The Organization Man, which looked at how conformity to the organization became more important than individualism in the 1950s.  A huge part of the book's research looked to the citizens of Park Forest for a glimpse into the Organization Man's home life. 

    The town is also featured in the "America on the Move" exhibit at the Smithsonian Museum. 

    The first homes to be constructed in Park Forest were single-family rental townhouses.  Construction began in 1946, and the first tenants came together for a town hall meeting in a tent on November 27, 1948, which is the day before my mom was born.  It's strange to think of a town being that young. 

    At that first meeting, the new residents were encouraged to set up their own town government.  These residents are often described as "pioneers," starting a whole new town from scratch, often far from their extended families.  They very quickly set up schools, churches, and shopping areas.  Apparently everything was muddy for awhile, a situation common in brand-new GI towns. 

    To educate future generations about Park Forest's unique history, the Park Forest Historical Society maintains the 1950s Park Forest House Museum in one of the original rental townhouses.  The house is set up to look like a young family lives there in the early 1950s.  All appliances, dishes, toys, and clothes are accurate to the period. 

    The house is decorated with 50s-era decorations at Christmas.  Nathan and I were able to visit the house yesterday, and, since we were the only ones there, we got a private tour. 

    The first thing that strikes you is how small the house is.  The new homes in Park Forest generally represented the standard of living that families aspired to in the postwar era, which means the standard of living sure has changed.  When I was growing up, the thing to do was to add on to your postwar suburban home, because those tiny homes that once provided ample space for an entire family suddenly seemed totally inadequate.  My grandmother added another bedroom onto her house, and then turned my dad's childhood bedroom into a bathroom--and not even a particularly large bathroom, by today's standards. 

    Here's an exterior shot of the museum:


    We first visited the kitchen, where I told Nathan about the milkman:

    Or you could just read that helpful children's book there, Milkman Bill.  

    It was around this time that Nathan rudely announced to the docent, "I don't like this house at all."
    I, however, was intrigued.  Look at this refrigerator!  The tiny little part in the upper-right-hand corner there is the entire freezer!  They had the ice cube tray with the little handle that cuts the ice. 


    I was also interested to see S&H Green Stamps, which I had always heard about:


    And what lovely wall decor a cake pan makes!

    The hand sanitizer is not historically accurate.  

    Here are some 1950s toys:



    My dad had talked about American Plastic Bricks, but I didn't know exactly what they were.  I guess they're like a precursor to Legos:

    What seems odd to me is that even the toys we still have, like Tinker Toys, came in smaller containers.  I guess everything is bigger now.  

    One of the two bedrooms is set up to look like a classroom, to commemorate the town's first school, which was housed in one of the rental units until a permanent school could be built.  Nathan was intrigued by this dollhouse in the schoolroom:


    And he also liked this globe piggy bank.  I'm surprised it isn't just America and the Soviet Union on there:


    He also thought this paper Santa was cool:


    The desks were the kind with attached chairs and very heavy tops that lifted up.  Nathan thought they were intriguing:


    The weirdest thing I found out was that Park Forest was once such a buzzing metropolis that it had a Marshall Field's and some other big department store.  The adjacent town of Chicago Heights also had a nice department store.  I never think of these little rinky-dink towns as being shopping destinations. 


    This was the parents' bedroom.  Note the presence of Dr. Spock's book, which radically changed parenting in its time.


    Next we saw the bathroom.  I don't know why, but the toilet training potty made of wood with the little metal bucket underneath was interesting to me:


    In the hall they had popular doll Chatty Cathy, who I think looks kind of creepy:



    This newspaper photo shows all the families moving in to Park Forest at the same time: 


    Baby carriage, originally retailing for $19.95

    Down in the basement, the tour guide introduced me to these wire things you put inside your pants to keep their shape when they were drying on a clothesline:


    You didn't have a dryer.  You just washed your clothes in this giant cauldron of a washing machine, then ran each garment through the ringer at the top before hanging it on your clothesline in the basement.  And then you had to iron everything. 

    The whole thing made me think I shouldn't complain about doing my laundry anymore, but I probably still will.  

    Now, at this point in the tour we sort of doubled back and revisited the kitchen, because that's where the door to the basement was.  Apparently the closed-back cookie cutters were common back then.  Plus they spelled cookie like cooky.


    This is the phone book.  I still don't get old-school phone numbers that are partially made of letters. 


    Or course being a Fiestaware enthusiast, I had to photograph this kettle:


    Here's an old stand mixer:


    Nathan wanted to go back into the classroom again because it was his favorite part.


    I liked this teacher's poster that said, "We went to the store.  We had a penny.  We got candy."  Nowadays you can't get candy for a penny, and teachers would never promote foods that contribute to childhood obesity anyway.  

    This ad indicated that the type of house the museum is in, a two-bedroom townhouse, cost $88.50 per month to rent in 1948.  Today the same unit rents for $1,000/month. 


    This is a picture of the headset that the librarian wore in the Park Forest Library.  When answering reference calls, she could plug the headset into a jack right next to the card catalog.  The original mobile phone!


    I've personally never heard of Crayonex Crayons:


    I took this picture of the class photo from a kindergarten in 1950.  I'm interested in how a kindergarten classroom had a toy grocery store and dolls to play with, not like today's kindergartens that are so academically-oriented.  The kindergartens of the 1950s are now known as preschools. 

    Also isn't that kid in the upper left-hand corner a dapper young lad? 

    Here's Nathan in the living room in front of the spinning aluminum Christmas tree: 


    And here are both of us in front of the tree, with the "Family Radiation Measurement Kit" visible in the lower-right-hand corner:


    A little closer look at the kit:

    Exactly what level of family radiation would be safe?

    And that was our trip back in time to the 1950s.  The whole experience was really thought-provoking.  I think what makes the 1950s and 1960s so interesting to us (as evidenced by the popularity of Mad Men and The Help) is that these decades were so very near and yet so far.  On the one hand, a huge percentage of the population alive today can remember those decades, so that era is not exactly ancient history.  And yet, an experience like a visit to this museum or an episode of Mad Men reminds us just how much things have changed.  Some things have changed for the better--women are allowed to have identities outside of their husbands, our societies are much more racially-integrated, and nobody's wrestling with a laundry ringer.  

    But on the other hand, it's disturbing how much more we expect now.  We eat more, we buy more, and we want bigger houses to hold larger people and more stuff.  Many of the items we perceive as necessities today weren't even on people's radars in the 1950s.  Indeed, the town of Park Forest itself is an example of how expectations have changed. The town once embodied the highest standard of living, and today it's largely a working-class suburb.  And you kind of have to wonder if our complaints about how we can't afford everything we need is because we have just been socialized to believe we need so much more than we do.  

    I'm not suggesting that I'm going to offer any kind of solution here.  I'm just as guilty as everybody else when it comes to needing stuff and wanting stuff and buying stuff.  

    But a trip back in time sure does make you think about things. 

    Saturday, December 10, 2011

    14 Days of Festivity: Day 8

    A Very Bloggy Holiday

    My online-turned-real-life friend Farrah hosted a blogger holiday party on behalf of her site, DuPage Mamas.  


    Of course the first picture I took was of the food.  These cupcakes were purchased by the site KidGrade.  (Remember I'm a KidGrade ambassador?  And Farrah is too.) 


    Prior to the party, Farrah and I talked over Google chat about how much more important it is to make a human connection than an online connection.  I mean, not that the two are mutually exclusive--obviously the people connecting online are humans.  But I think you can tell when people at a gathering are more interested in the online connection than the connection with the humans in front of them--people spend most of the party on their mobile devices, tweeting and Facebooking and Instagramming with the party's hashtag and the names of the relevant people and brands.

    In contrast, I think at this party Farrah pulled off the human connection aspect perfectly.  People were legitimately talking to one another about real issues, and the mobile phone usage was minimal.  There were no name tags where people were identified in four different ways (name, blog name, URL, twitter handle).  The party didn't have a hashtag.

    It was just real human beings at a real party.  It was totally festive and represented exactly the kind of human connection that I believe is the true force behind mom blogs.

    Here is Farrah (far right) with some other bloggers:


    Naturally, I have another picture of the food.  This is the dinner buffet: pizza, salad, chicken, and pasta:


    Some of my other blogging friends:


    Here's Farrah at the raffle prize table.  She gave out like 20+ raffle prizes, which were generously donated by the companies on this poster she's going all spokesmodel with:


    Thanks, Farrah, for a great affair!

    TJ & Pals Preschool Computer Games

    Recently I had the opportunity to test-drive TJ & Pals, an online gaming site for preschoolers. 

    I got a membership to TJ & Pals for free. 

    If the idea of online gaming for preschoolers makes you nervous, rest assured that TJ & Pals has a downloadable "Safe Play" application, which is like a closed system where your kids don't have access to the Internet, and the people of the Internet don't have access to your kids. 

    I was skeptical about TJ's ability to hold Nathan's interest, since, unlike the rest of the online games he plays, it wasn't based on any of the licensed characters from the children's TV shows he watches. 

    But he loved TJ & Pals!  He played for like an hour the first time I turned it on.  And, unlike with the shoddily-thrown-together games on the children's TV network websites, there were no weird glitches that frustrated Nathan and caused him to interrupt me every four seconds. 

    Let me make this clear: He mostly played on his own for an hour.  Boo-yah. 

    Then the next day he begged to play "that new thing that you got on the computer." 

    What do you get with TJ & Pals?  The site offers 5 main menus:
    •  How To: These would be your basic educational activities, which teach spelling, reading, math, writing, and drawing/painting.  Most of the activities in this section are still "coming soon," so we didn't spend too much time on this particular section.
    • Games: Naturally, this was Nathan's favorite section.  There are a few different kinds of puzzles: jigsaw, sliding tiles, hidden pictures, and memory.  There's also a "Let's Play" activity, where you basically complete scenes using the online equivalent of stickers.  All the scenes are based on careers (builder, musician, baker, etc.), although most are "coming soon."  What I like about the games and activities in this section is that they are all multi-step.  For example, after a kid finds all the missing pictures in a particular scene, he/she is given another black and white scene to add the pictures back into, and then upon completion the scene becomes colorful and animated, and music plays.  
    • Stories: This section features several animated story videos, which can either be read aloud to children, or else children can read themselves.  
    • Activities: This section includes the Art Studio (your basic draw/paint program), Sing Along (with options for karaoke that you can record), Color In pictures, and TJ's Gym.  Connect the Dots and Make Cards are coming soon.  The gym was my favorite feature of this section.  It includes 4 exercise videos that children can work out with, although 3 of the videos are "coming soon."  This could be a really great indoor exercise opportunity during the long winter months.  
    • Explore My World: This is sort of like a safe social networking place for kids, where they can connect with friends and play online live with those friends.  Scrapbooks, Guest Passes, and Gallery are coming soon.  
    TJ & Pals also offers iPhone/iPad apps.

    Overall, I really enjoyed TJ & Pals.  You can't go wrong with an activity that is safe, educational, and doesn't make a mess, right?